First up is my dear friend Amanda Germain. We were all pleasantly surprised when she snagged a position at the State Attorney’s office right after graduation. Our friendship is a product of the relationship I mentioned in my last post and a constant reminder that there are no “mistakes”. I have been lucky enough to watch her grow, not only in her career but as a woman, coming to understand self love and how to take an aggressive approach in creating the life you want to live.
In this interview we discuss her career and experiences working with the justice system as a biracial woman, as well as finding ways to feel like herself again after a breakup and trusting God’s Plan for her. Actually, not even just feeling like her self, but getting to know herself, and love that person!
What industry are you in currently?
A victim/witness coordinator at the State Attorneys Office
Is your industry one usually dominated by women? How did you fight stigmas?
There is definitely more males than women at my job. But the women who are there , are strong and tend to be chiefs and supervisors of divisions (which is a big deal) . Although we lack in numbers, we have high demanding positions at the state attorneys office . For instance, I am a coordinator , and men work under me.
What are you most proud of at the moment?
Joining crossfit and eating better. It has changed my life in more ways than one. I’m so proud of myself for finally fighting that “workout barrier” and joining a tough, challenging workout class . I never thought I could lift the weight I’m lifting or run the speed I’m running . Amazing euphoric addicting feeling
How big a role has your culture and gender played in your journey?
Being a biracial woman has played a huge role in my life . I understand things from both sides . I’ve battled with what side is right and what side is wrong . Or if one color is better than another. Ultimately what it comes down to is being true yourself . Standing by what’s right, and when you see something wrong or racist happening, speak up. Make people uncomfortable . Have those conversations that need to be had . Most importantly, be educated before you talk about something to other people .
Any major life events in the last 6 months you’re working through?
Major events ….haha yes . I recently went through an extremely hard break up with someone I really loved . Working out and praying, and focusing on things that make me happy has gotten me through my sadness . Also , having positive people around me has helped tremendously . God has a plan (cliche , I know ) . But I must follow his plan and not mine . Everything always works out . Be better not bitter .
What is your version of success? When will you say you’ve “made it”?
Success ….doing what you love unapologetically . Having your own things . Not living paycheck to paycheck . I’ll say I “made it” when I have my own place , nice car , and I go into my job with a smile on my face 4 out of 5 days of the week
Love or success? Should you have to choose?
you can have love and success . The person you are with should inspire you to be a better version of you everyday . Your biggest fan . Vise versa
What’s one thing you’ve realized with age/time in the industry? (and want other women to realize as well)
Women rock ….we do too much hating and judging . If we put our minds together instead of tearing each other apart ….we could really do something epic
Are you doing what you want to be doing forever?
No, I am not but it is a step in that direction. I’d like to be a criminal justice professor and work with kids in low income neighborhoods one day. In the meantime this is exposing me to the system more intimately.
What can be said about failure?
Failure is just a word . It’s not an excuse to give up or feel sorry for yourself . If lions stopped trying to chase antelopes every time they didn’t make a kill, they would die . Get up , try again . Try doing something another way if it didn’t work the first way you tried it . Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results – insanity .
What are you currently demanding of yourself?
What am I currently demanding of myself? Hmmm…..be better…not bitter. Get closer to God. Focus on the FUTURE not the PAST . Become physically and emotionally stronger .
How do you speak to yourself internally and what effect does it have on your life?
Lol the way I speak to myself is weird. Every time I catch myself reminiscing or maybe even feeling a lump in my throat, I tell myself out loud “God’s plan is better than your plan, God’s plan is better than your plan.” Also even if I have to workout twice a day , it is a total therapy session for me. I feel amazing after working out. Blasting some Migos.
Being newly single, what are some new non-negotiable for you?
Non negotiable- must have his life together. A good career, a good head on his shoulders . Ambitious. Hard working. Everyone’s love is different, but if I could have it my way, I want someone who loves me unconditionally….
How does working in government affect your views as a biracial women?
Working for the State and being biracial ….it’s funny . It’s like I work for the prosecution, but when I walk into the courtroom full of young black men in chains, I still gulp. It’s sad for me. And it’s so easy for people to say “you wouldn’t have to rob people if you just got a job”. It’s not that simple . These kids are raised in terrible, terrible conditions. Single family house holds. Thug life is all they see. They don’t even stand a fighting chance . Their public defenders don’t give a damn about them . They can’t afford bond . It’s just tough . But it’s like how do I change this twisted system of injustice ? Am I part of the problem? As I stand next to my elderly white victim robbed at gunpoint, what side is the RIGHT side?