Funny that Cat’s and my relationship, like actual friendship started in a similar space as this. An interview turned into collaborations that turned into an actual friendship. We had been trying for years, bonding over our similar hair textures and then losing touch for years in between. I think the universe was prepping us for a stronger friendship and support system.
Cat is a true depiction of someone who has felt that pull from the universe, that calling, and ran with it. Not exactly sure where it is taking her, but sure that she is meant to DO. She has battled her own doubts and insecurities to set the standard for the rest of us, you have a purpose and its time you embraced it. Let her show you how ✨
What industry are you in currently?
Is your industry one usually dominated by women? How did you fight stigmas?
In the area of women’s rights, yes, it’s mostly a female centric atmosphere, but podcasting is heavily saturated by males. My writing is catered to a female audience, so unless editors are female and familiar with the topics I cover I don’t get many things picked up.
What are you most proud of at the moment?
Although it was scary, I felt proudest of myself as I sat on a flight to start a new life in NYC.
Any major life events in the last 6 months you’re working through? (Quit a job? Changed cities? Breakup? Marriage? Etc. positive or negative )
Moved to NYC from Miami, launched my podcast, moved in with my partner.
What is your version of success? When will you say you’ve “made it”
This is an interesting question because I’m completely head into the journey and love it! Success for me will be a crux of deeply inspiring other women, attaining financial freedom, and maintaining complete creative control all along.
What’s one thing you’ve realized with age/time in the industry? (and want other women to realize as well)
As we get older there are expectations that will begin to try and attach themselves to us (get married, have children, etc). Vehemently reject any societal expectation that does not apply to you. If it’s not for you, you have the right to say no thanks.
Love or success? Should you have to choose?
Nope, you can have both! The key is to find yourself in a partnership where all parties respect and honor each others individuality. If each person falls in love with the others gifts and honors them, there will always be time to maintain intimacy and expression (which leads to “success”).
Any new endeavors you’d like to promote?
The Chats With Cat podcast and my inspiring weekly newsletter, Fearless Fridays!
A major component of your platform is highlighting other millennials. Often times, when we see people do this. Its about elevating themselves. The person has a large following so they “collaborate” in the hopes of growing their audience. What I liked about you, is that you oftentimes put me on to people I wouldn’t have heard about other wise. Tell me about that, what is your selection process like?
I’ve noticed that a lot of people on social media have ulterior motives as to why they do things and I guess I can’t really knock the hustle. I understand that people want to grow their businesses and platforms in that way, but it’s just not how I prefer to approach anything I’m involved in. What I’m trying to do online is build a sisterhood and showcase women who are truly committed to doing something worthwhile, not just those who want to be popular. I want to shine a light on the women within our communities who feel relatable and who openly share their gifts with us because whether they know it or not, they heal. As varied as we all are as individuals is how unique each of our gifts are, so I feel like I have an endless amount of beautiful people to celebrate! I know that my approach won’t be the fastest way to gain a lot of followers or traction but it was never really about that anyway-it’s just always been about appreciation and empowerment.
What does being a woman mean to you.
For me, being a woman is being the fabric to all life. We birth. We create. We heal. We infuse sense and empathy into the world around us. I find women to not only carry beautiful energy, but to also provide balance and understanding to everything. I’m obsessed with us.
What insecurities have you had to battle and how does that inform your approach to certain causes.
The two insecurities that have followed me since adolescence have been embracing my body and the fear of not “doing enough”. I fight every day to consciously tap into my hardwired mind and tell myself that I am physically beautiful, but more importantly I’ve begun to shift the kind of beauty I find to be most important-the way we make others feel and the pleasantry we leave behind in a room. This is what actually matters. As I overcome my self-doubt and embrace my being, I empathize with the fact that other women struggle with the same issues. This is why I am adamant on affirming the grace of others in everything I do.
A lot of what you verbalize dealing with spirituality resonates with me. How has your faith affected your journey, or vice versa?
I feel like my faith is a constant expression of my attempt to surrender to God, be grateful for this opportunity of experience life, and seeking out divine wisdoms. Once I embraced being humble enough to admit that I don’t know everything but I can simultaneously be thankful for the opportunity to try I felt a shift take over my life. My intentions became clearer. I had less bad days. I reconciled negative feelings quicker. All of these things culminated to me feeling like I was going along with the lessons God was creating for me as opposed to fighting them. They haven’t all been pleasant, but they’ve made me a better person which then allows me to be of better service to others.
What’s one thing you wish you realized a lot sooner ?
Forgiveness is freedom.
What are somethings you want women to stop doing right now?
Apologizing for things they didn’t have control over.
Restricting themselves to appease or make others comfortable (esp men).
Hating their bodies because they don’t fit society’s arbitrary standard of beauty.
BTW-STILL LEARNING THESE MYSELF.
Do you believe what you put into your body is a catalyst for what you put out?
Oh yes! Nutritious food leads to wholesome thoughts and creations
What is it about your partner that makes him your match? Tell me about this balance.r
With Frank I’ve found what Marianne Williamson calls a holy relationship. It’s sacred. Essentially, we’re best friends helping each other work through unhealed wounds all the while whole-heartedly trying to make each other better versions of ourselves through love. Prior to meeting we were both already on a mission to design lives that would keep us in service to other people so when we came together it felt like we became partners in a game. His wins are my wins and vice versa. We respect each others need to go out into the world to learn respectively but we’re always so excited to bring it all back home so we can level up together. In past relationships I felt like my sense of being was somehow muffled but with him I feel like I can only be myself.
I don’t really know how to explain it except that together we’re hacking life and taking risks feels safer.
How do you approach rejection?
Feel the sting but don’t let it linger for too long. There has to be a lesson involved and it’s our duty to learn it as quickly as possible.
You WANT to keep up with Cat. (I’m not even asking if. you want to.)